Unless abuse or a loveless marriage are affecting your relationship situation and divorce is high on the agenda, know that it’s still not too late to stop your divorce. Too many couples head for the permanent split option without at least trying to get things back on track.
Sure, there are situations where the best option is to part permanently and we’ve mentioned a couple of reasons for that but if you are serious about stopping your divorce then the good news is there is still hope.
First of all it takes two people to stop your divorce and unless the both of you are working for the same cause then it will be virtually a waste of time. If only one person is committed things may get back on track but they will soon disintegrate again some time down the track. We will take a look at some things you need to consider in this article if you want to stop your divorce.
6 Ways To Stop Your Divorce
– The first of these is finding the problem. Sitting down with your spouse and having a good, honest discussion about the issues which both of you see as having had an impact on the relationship is a great start. Both of you need to swallow your pride at this time if you are serious about getting to the root problem.
– Think back and highlight those times when conflict arose. What led to the conflict? In many cases they would have simply been symptoms and were treated as such but the problem still existed. Can you see the importance of digging deep to find the real issue?
– Fixing the problem is the next step. Remember, if the problem cannot be fixed then there is no chance that you will stop your divorce. That’s why it’s paramount to a successful outcome that the main issue is identified and then resolved.
– When this has been identified then both of you need to make a commitment to work together to eliminate it. And it will take both of you working together.
– Here’s a great tip. Remember the good times. Even though things have disintegrated to this current point there was a time when you were both happy. What attracted you to each other in the first place? What were the things you did together that made you happy. Getting back to that “happy place” will give you a good springboard to work through the issues.
– Starting over is the next step. If this sounds a little strange remember what you have done to get to this point. In fact, if you have got to this stage in resolving your issues and know what went wrong the chances you will stop your divorce are better than good. You need to agree to put the bad times behind you. Avoid dredging up old wounds. It’s a fresh start so start out like a new couple and learn from your previous mistakes.
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